“Squirting is when fluid is expelled from a woman’s vagina during G-spot stimulation.”

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Jabbing. Female sex. Making it rain. There was a lot of love. Chances are you have some questions about squirting.

“Let’s get the most pressing one out of the way first, because it’s real.”

Great. You are ready for a lesson in squirting 101, scroll down.

“Squirting refers to the expulsion of fluid from folks with vulvas during sex,” certified sex coach Gigi Engle, author of “All The F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life.”

“The Skene’s glands at the lower end of the urethra release the fluid that is a mixture of urea, uric acid, and creatinine.”

Although the terms “female ejaculate” and “squirting” are sometimes used interchangeably, Dr. Jill McDevitt, PhD, CalExotics’ resident sexologist, notes that some people argue that ejaculating and squirting are two different things.

When someone squirts, Engle says, “it’s usually from G-spot stimulation, or clitoral and G-spot dual stimulation.”

She explains: The Skene’s glands, G-spot, and urethral sponge are all located in roughly the same area of the body.

“If you only stimulated one thing, you’re likely to stimulated them all. And if you stimulated the Skene’s glands? People with vulvas squirt.”

Squirting is a term used by many other names.

  • gushing
  • There was a wave of love.
  • I was jizzing.
  • squirting orgasm

Not everyone with a vulvar is female, and so squirting is often referred to as female ejaculation.

Additionally, though the terms are used interchangeably, some research suggests that the mechanisms involved in ejaculation and squirting are actually completely different.

That’s like asking what an orgasm or sex feels like: Everyone will have a slightly different answer.

Some people say it feels like an orgasm. It feels similar but slightly different from an orgasm.

It is intense. Like a release. If my husband touches my G-spot, I squirt. It is not a similar sensation for me, says the woman.

“Due to the pressure on the urethra, some people report feeling like they need to pee right before they squirt,” says Engle.

Joannie N., 29, is that case. I feel like I will wet the bed before it happens. She says it feels like a really wet orgasm while it is happening.

For some trans and nonbinary folks, squirting can be really gender-affirming. It is for Hunter C., 23, a transgender man who says, “Squirting feels to me what I imagine I was jizzing. would feel like if I had a penis.”

McDevitt says that this is a highly contentious question.

Why? There have been studies on squirting, but they have conflicting results because of how under- studied the bodies of people with vulvas and sex are.

According to scientific analysis, it appears that anyone with a vulvar has the ability to squirt.

“But that doesn’t mean every person with a vulva can or will or does,” she says. Estimates suggest anywhere between 10 and 50 percent of folks with vulvas do.

“McDevitt makes a point that squirting isn’t better than not having the ability.”

There are many myths and misconceptions about squirting, one of which is that it is not real.

However, though more research is needed to understand exactly how and why it happens, there is plenty of evidence to support the existence of squirting.

Another common myth is that anyone with a vulva can squirt. While there are several methods and sexual positions that may be beneficial, it’s estimated that only around 10-50 percent of folks with a vulva are able to squirt.

Some people think that the fluid expelled is nothing more than pee.

Interestingly, one study conducted in 2015 found that the fluid emitted during squirting does contain urine, but it also contains a compound called prostatic-specific antigen produced by the Skene’s glands, which are known as the female prostate.

Squirting usually comes down to either G-spot stimulation or G-spot stimulation combined with clitoral stimulation.

To make cleanup as easy as possible, start by prepping your surroundings. Lay a few towels down or a waterproof throw on the bed. You can find waterproof throws online.

“It’s possible to get it on in the bathtub.”

“Christine B., 31, says that when she masturbates she gets in the tub so she doesn’t have to worry about getting everything wet. Makes sense!”

How much fluid you expel varies by person. Some people release a small amount. Others gush. Might as well get ready for a super-soaker.

Next, make the mood cheerful.

Put your phone on airplane mode, light candles, and place toys within reach.

When you are good and turned on, it is time to give your G-spot and clit some love.

How to find the G-spot

McDevitt says the G-spot is inside the front vaginal wall. If you are looking for it with your fingers, feel for something a little bit more subtle.

Any sex act or position that stimulates your G-spot and clit at the same time can work if you want to explore squirting during sex. Three to try.

Doggy style

If your partner has a penis or dildo, doggy style provides the perfect angle for them to reach the front vaginal wall where the G-spot is.

To try it.

  1. Get on all fours with the partner positioned on their knees.
  2. Have your partner stroke.
  3. If you want to change the angle of penetration, widen your knees and drop to your forearms.
  4. Reach your hand between your legs to play with your clit. Or have your partner hold a vibrator against you.

Manual missionary

“Manual stimulation is more likely to make someone squirt than penis-in-vagina or dildo-in-vagina intercourse,” according to Engle.

Her recommendation: Have the receiving partner touch their own clit. Or, have the giving partner perform cunnilingus as they finger you.

To try it.

  1. Lie on your back.
  2. You can have your partner position themselves between your legs.
  3. They can experiment with different amounts of pleasure by moving their fingers toward your belly button.
  4. You can use a sex toy to touch your clitoris. Or have your partner do it.

Toy play

Both experts say that the njoy Pure Wand is a good choice for G-spot play.

To try it.

  1. Lie on your back.
  2. Using lube, insert the toy and rock it against your front vaginal wall.
  3. Have your partner use a clitoral stimulator.

Find the njoy Pure Wand online.

You don’t need a partner to squirt. “If you’re someone who squirts, you can definitely make yourself squirt during masturbation,” confirms Engle.

Relax

Do what you have to do to stop working.

It is unlikely that you will be relaxed enough to squirt if you are not in the right mindset, holding yourself back or not giving yourself over to the full sensation.

Explore your erogenous zones

You can’t go from go-to-O even in your solo sex life!

Warm-up by touching your neck, ears, inner thigh, lower stomach, and nipples with your fingers, a vibrator, or a sensation toy like the Wartenberg wheel or feather teaser.

Find a Wartenberg wheel and feather teaser online.

Rub your nub

If you want to get revved up, touch your clit.

You might opt for a clit stimulation toy. She recommends a clit suction toy like the Womanizer, which uses pleasure air technology to stimulate oral sex. Find it online.

Locate your G-spot

When you are aroused, wait until you are super turned on to find it.

While touching your clitoris, use a wand or your fingers to locate your G-spot and massage it, says Engle.

You can find sex toys that are both stimulating and pleasurable.

Like other erogenous zones, how and if the G-spot is pleasurable varies person to person.

“Don’t worry, if you don’t feel anything, you can just ignore it. There is nothing wrong with you.”

Keep going

Some people will feel like they need to pee. If you feel that way, it is a sign that something is on your horizon.

You should stop when you are done, not because you think you have to pee.

Practice, practice, practice

Practice makes a squirter. Kidding!

Continue to explore your body without expectations, even if you squirt.

“If your partner can’t or doesn’t squirt, don’t make them feel less than.”

“Don’t assume that penetrative sex is the best way to have sex. It is not according to Engle.”

Follow these steps once you are in the right mindset.

  1. Help them relax.
  2. Engage in a ton of foreplay.
  3. Stimulate their clit with your mouth, fingers, or a toy.
  4. You can find their G-spot by stroking their clit.
  5. Put some pressure on their lower belly with your other hand. This may help them squirt.
  6. Continue until they tell you to stop.

PSA: Any sexually transmitted infection (STI) that’s transmitted through bodily fluid can be transmitted through the fluid released by squirting. This includes:

To protect yourself, wear a glove or finger condom during manual-genital stimulation, a dental dam if oral stimulation is involved, or an internal or external condom for vaginal or anal penetrative sex.

“Sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn’t, sometimes you try for a long time to experience it for the first time in your 60s.”

There is nothing wrong with not being able to squirt. Pleasure is valid and should be celebrated regardless of whether you squirt or not.

No! Unless you want to go get pizza, you should keep playing.

If you are still in the mood, there are other things you can do.

Exploring whether you squirt can be fun.

“Some bodies do many sexy things. No big if you don’t or haven’t.”

Gabrielle Kassel is a New York–based sex and wellness writer and CrossFit Level 1 Trainer. She’s become a morning person, tested over 200 vibrators, and eaten, drunk, and brushed with charcoal — all in the name of journalism. In her free time, she can be found reading self-help books and romance novels, bench-pressing, or pole dancing. Follow her on Instagram.